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The Choice of Love in Adoption
In the first part of our series, The Longing for Redemption in Adoption, we began a discussion concerning the redemptive nature of adoption. Adoption is inherently redemptive in nature, both in our earthly families and in our spiritual family. We must understand the need before we can fully appreciate the gift that is the choice to love in adoption.
All of the brokenness that makes us long for the redemption of adoption, whether the suffering of children without parents to love and care for them, the heartache of husbands and wives desperately wanting children of their own, or that of sinners weighed down by this body of death, that brokenness is only healed by someone who is under no obligation to love us or to care for us making the choice to set their love on us in adoption.
This is where earthly adoption most clearly showcases the wonder of the gospel in our heavenly adoption.
The Choice of Love in Adoption
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption to himself as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved. Ephesians 1:3-6
The beauty of adoption is that all the longing and heartache is answered and fulfilled, not by someone who is under obligation to us, but by someone who actively chooses to love us, to care for us, and to make us their own. It is one thing for a parent to love and care for their biological child; the connection is built in during the long months of pregnancy, and societal norms reinforce the duty of the parent toward the child.
It is a whole different matter for someone to see a child in need and make the conscious decision to take on the sum of responsibility for that child; to love them, care for them, bring them into their family and make them their own. This isn’t done out of a sense of obligation, there is no duty that compels this. This is a love that looks upon the suffering of someone who can make no claim on you, or compel your affection or care in any way, and determines to do everything necessary to right what was wronged, fulfill what was lacking, bring security and happiness where there was frailty and sadness.
A Beautiful Picture of the Gospel
This is such a beautiful picture of the gospel. We were lost and frail, confused and broken; there was nothing about us that could demand God’s love, or a restored relationship with our heavenly Father. In this state, under no obligation to us, God made the radical decision to choose us, to set his love on us, to determine to do everything necessary to right what we wronged and fulfill every demand of His law that we could not fulfill. He sent His Son to be deserving when we had no claim to make on God, to be perfect and complete when we were sinful and broken, so that He would be able to exercise His incredible choice to love us by adopting us through Christ His Son.
The choice of love in adoption comes not from the one who is in need, but from the one who chooses to meet every need.
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Caleb Stomberg is husband to Lindsey and father to their seven children. He is pastor at Legacy Reformed Baptist Church in East Grand Forks, MN. Caleb enjoys woodworking, hunting, and anything Tolkien.